We strived to provide any information that you may seek about ClubFEM Tulsa throughout the website. Here we have composed a list of the most commonly asked questions.  If you have not found specific information, please email us. The address is at the bottom of each page.

What does a typical ClubFem party/event look like?

Head Mistress E usually sends an email out before each party lining out how the party will run. Short version: submissives arrive at 7, Dominants at 7:30 unless they are paired. The Dominants are settled into the social room while the submissives prepare for food service. The submissives have a pre-meeting just before 8 to go over last minute reminders and expectations. At 8 we begin with introductions then food service. Can run concurrent with the discussion. Demos may require a bit faster service. All the Dominants are served and after HM E is served, the submissives may then get their plates. Around 9, half the submissives get dressed down and the others bring in toy bags from the cars if needed. 11-11:30 play wraps up, the submissives get dressed and the Dominants retire to the social room. The submissives clean the space, resetting it to ready for Saturday night. We are usually leaving around midnight.

Do partners pick each other or is it purely up to the Dominants?

Negotiation and consent are paramount to this lifestyle. A Dominant can ask just as easily as a submissive can ask. And "no" is to be respected.

What types of activities happen at the parties?

We have a demo or a discussion over types of service, play or dynamics. We enjoy food and beverage service from the submissives. Activities can include everything from impact play to Dominant pampering. 

Will I be forced to participate in play?

Not at all! We just ask that you come ready to serve and be of service.

I filled out the form, now what happens?

We will run background check. If that comes back clear then you will do a face to face vetting with Head Mistress E. These vettings can also be done at our meet and greets.

What if I don't vibe with a Dominant/submissive?

Not everyone will vibe with everyone and that is okay. Showing respect is still expected. If there is an issue, please inform Head Mistress E or one of the other executives.

I am not on Fetlife. How do I communicate with other members?

We use an app called GroupMe. We have an All chat, a Dominants chat and a submissives chat. In the All, you can request to DM any member.

How do I pay for an event?

Cash can be given to Head Mistress E at an event or meet and greet. If you are not on Fetlife, you will message via the GroupMe to find out where you can find her for the evening. We do not accept any electronic payments nor cards.

I enjoy more intimate types of play. Can I engage in them at the parties?

Some Dominants like to have a connection with a submissive before engaging in more intimate play. The ones who do, some even prefer that to be more private than in a group setting. It all comes down to the negotiation and consent. Will you be able to have sex or engage in any sexual service like oral? NO. That is not what these parties are.

I have seen in videos where the Dominants humiliate and degrade a submissive. Does this happen?

Not unless you have negotiated specifically with a Dominant to engage in such activity.